“Whatever your difficulties - a devastated heart, financial loss, feeling assaulted by the conflicts around you, ora seemingly hopeless illness - you can always remember that you are free in every moment to set the compass of your heart to your highest intentions. In fact, the two things that you are always free to do - despite your circumstances - are to be present and to be willing to love.”—
next time a telemarketer calls you, try to sell them something
This reminded me of a time I was in Florence, Italy with students. It was late in the evening and the rain had finally stopped. A student gave me his broken umbrella. I fixed it but it stayed in my hands. Another asked me to hold their umbrella for a moment. That became the rest of the walk….this way and that I ended up with four umbrellas dangling from my hands plus mine. One of those people who walk around with wares for sale approached me with a bunch of knock off purses in his arms. “Miss, would you like to buy a bag?” I replied with a kind “no thank you” but looking down saw that all these umbrellas I had were a lot like the bags he was selling. I looked up “No sir, but would you like to buy an umbrella?” He stopped in his tracks. “They are nice umbrellas?” I went on with my pitch. He began to shake his head. “Sir look how they open.” I tried opening one. The students giggled. He laughed as well and began walking away. “Two euros” I yelled. “One?” The students told me to keep my day job and I told them to keep their umbrellas! We had a great laugh.
“Coffee is far more than a beverage. It is an invitation to life, disguised as a cup of warm liquid. It’s a trumpet wake-up call or a gentle rousing hand on your shoulder…Coffee is an experience, an offer, a rite of passage, a good excuse to get together.”—
“You don’t need anyone’s affection or approval in order to be good enough. When someone rejects or abandons or judges you, it isn’t actually about you. It’s about them and their own insecurities, limitations, and needs, and you don’t have to internalize that. Your worth isn’t contingent upon other people’s acceptance of you — it’s something inherent.
You exist, and therefore, you matter. You’re allowed to voice your thoughts and feelings. You’re allowed to assert your needs and take up space. You’re allowed to hold onto the truth that who you are is exactly enough. And you’re allowed to remove anyone from your life who makes you feel otherwise.